“Happiness is a by-product of character. In people who are developing a strong character, there is a dramatically higher level of happiness than in those who live to chase after the next good time.”
Pat Holt and Grace Ketterman, MD
What makes a happy child who grows into a happy adult?
We all know that some of us tend to be more upbeat than others. Part of this is inborn, just the fate of our genes that give us a happier mood. But much of our mood is habit.
It may seem odd to have happiness referred to as a habit. But it’s likely that by the time we’re adults, we have settled into a “happiness set point” that doesn’t change unless we work at it.
How can you support your child –and yourself — to develop the habits that lead to happiness?
These 11 tips will get you started.
1. Teach your child constructive mental habits that create happiness.
2. Teach your child self-management routines that create happiness.
3. Model a growth mindset and positive self-talk.
4. Cultivate optimism…
5. Help your child find joy in everyday things.
6. Support your child to prioritize relationships.
7. Help your child develop an attitude of gratitude.
8. Accept all emotions.
9. Help your child learn how to manage their moods.
10. Counteract the message that happiness can be bought.
11. Help your child learn the joy of contribution.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” — Frederick Keonig